Nobody Gets Off in This Town

When I was in Austin for my two week escape from the driveway, I went to dinner at my favorite sushi restaurant.  I love to sit at the sushi bar and watch the edible art being created as I sample the small plates that come up one by one, while sipping $3 sake until my gums are comfortably numb.   The place is always packed, so it is always a crap shoot whether you will be seated next to the back of an entwined couple oblivious to the world around them, sharing bites off the end of one another’s chopsticks.   Or maybe it will be another loner like me who came for the presentation, not the conversation.  Or perhaps even someone looking for a little chopstick co-mingling of their own?

This time, I got the enthusiastic  Expense Account Guy, happier to be out on the town than a penned up puppy.  He didn’t even give me a chance to polish the splinters off my chopsticks before asking, “So where’re YOU from?”    Having only been full timing for a little under a year now, this is still a challenging question, and thankfully, I have a plethora of answers.   Having lived everywhere from New Orleans to New Jersey, it’s usually easy to temper my answer to my mood.  Tonight, I am feeling a bit “prickly,” so I just say “Oh, just down the street” (no lie!)  Feeling obligated to return the same rote question, I ask, “You?”  He answers, “Oh, a small town just outside of Dallas.   I am sure you have never heard of it before.  Midlothian?”   I take a long draw on my cold unfiltered sake, raise my glass as I drop my head in disbelief, and say, “MHS, Class of 72.”

He moved here with his family as a “quality of life improvement.”  Good God, man.   Where were you living before?   Somalia?    It always surprises me that someone would actually move here by choice.   “Midlothian – The Cement Capital of Texas.”   Wonder who we had to fight for those bragging rights?

Just one of our claims to fame…

Growing up in such a small town did have its advantages.   Being only a class of 60, I knew all my classmates well.   We got lots of individual attention and extracurricular activities back then, like a class field trip to go watch the making of “Bonnie and Clyde” with Faye Dunaway and Warren Beatty.    I still have their autograph tacked on my cork bulletin board among pennants and pop star pinups like Sonny and Cher.  We raised enough money during our senior year for a school bus trip to Estes Park, Colorado.   It was the first time some of my classmates had seen mountains, and I venture to say for some, it may have also been the last.

Where the Winnie gets her inspection….”In business for 47 years!”

It also afforded lots of opportunity for reward and recognition.   Not only did I win the “Crisco Award for Outstanding Student in Home Economics” (try living down the “Crisco Award” amongst a bunch of testosterone-intoxicated teens!)   But I was also voted “Most Likely to Succeed.”   Wonder what they think of me now that I am homeless?  😉

The gayest thing in town…

Texas-style Tire Swing

I still recall my reaction to the 1971 movie, “The Last Picture Show,” about a group of High School students coming of age in a West Texas town. It was nominated for 8 Academy Awards.  I didn’t get what all the fuss was about.  How could someone be entertained by sitting through two hours of my home town?  Too close to home.

Bicentennial Time Capsule, to be exhumed on July 4th, 2076. I am guessing it contains a polyester pant suit, a wiglet, and a Barry Manilow 8-track.

Although I counted the hours till Graduation Day so I could join my fellow hippie wannabes down at the liberal University in Austin, I still have classmates who never left.    The wildest of us all has done time, and is now working the Chicken Express drive-thru.   My brother’s best friend inherited his father’s hardware business.  And our Class President now delivers the mail.

My younger brother is also one who never left.  He seems content to call it home, with only the occasional vacation trip to the islands.    This always makes me wonder how three kids from the same parents could be so vastly different.     The eldest of us siblings is currently down in the belly of Guatemala exploring Mayan ruins, with no indication of plans to return anytime soon.  The middle sibling gave up on trying to remain in one spot for more than five years at a time, and finally succumbed to a mobile existence.   So how is it that the third and youngest sibling sewed all his seeds right here under the family tree?   Even that doesn’t make sense considering our father was “Born a ramblin’ man,” hopping a freight train like a hobo bound for California at the very young age of 18.   At 92, he is still a wanderer.   So what makes us all differ so greatly?  What makes a person predisposed to the itch?  Is there such a thing as a “wandering gene?”

The scenic view over “One Walton Way,” the hottest ticket in town. (Note to RVers: Overnight parking allowed!)

I love my parents with all my heart.  Sometimes I feel bad for them, because they got gypped where daughters are concerned.  I will never be one of those types who lives next door and comes over every weekend with a Sunday Roast.  They know I will come back to help whenever they need me.  But if it came to long term confinement in Rural Town, Texas, at 85 and 92 years of age, I feel certain they would most likely outlive me.

Back when I was trying to sell my sticks and bricks in Atlanta, my Dad used to ask, “Why don’t you just move back to the farm?”  My answer was (and still is) always the same… “If I did, I would only need six feet of land…six feet under.”

8 thoughts on “Nobody Gets Off in This Town

  1. Driving through West Texas, trying to escape via backroads through crossroad towns, I couldn’t help but ask out loud, “What is there to hold the next generation on such a pancake prairie?” Then I noticed all the boarded up windows on Main Street and got my answer. You would need to have ten kids in order to have the slightest chance on one sticking around long enough to pass the farm to.
    Box Canyon Mark

  2. “Bicentennial Time Capsule, to be exhumed on July 4th, 2076. I am guessing it contains a polyester pant suit, a wiglet, and a Barry Manilow 8-track.”

    HAHaaaaaaaa

    Well? Midlothian ~ I didn’t realize you were from there. I do consider everything west of Dallas … West Texas but you still got a bit of green there.

    cement capitol of the WORLD and ahhhhh ol Waxahachie …. really is an interesting area as far as how these towns became towns and why… like Dallas… made no sense for there to be a Dallas ~ out in the middle of a prairie … Texas is an interesting thing … period.

    I’m the only girl with two brothers also but I’m the baby and the only one who is different ~ amazing, isn’t it.

    Loved reading this and as with so many other of your posts, I do relate. I don’t care for sushi, however… 😉

  3. wow….we grew up in the same town, only mine is in northern alberta canada….I can write the same story but that would be plagiarism so I won’t.
    I finallly have decent internet so i can finally read your blog

  4. Have you read the book “the Story of sushi” by Trevor Corson? I purchased and read it a couple of years ago after reading his “The Secret Life of Lobsters” and loving it. When I finished the sushi book I, who love sushi, turned to my wife and told her that she who also loves sushi should not read the book. The reason is that the knowledge gained helped me understand sushi much better, but not sure that I could enjoy it is much again.
    Fortunately I overcame my new knowledge and have returned to the sushi bar many times since the passing of about six months sushi-less.
    I too began life in a small village where my class was about 27 students. I moved to a much larger village when I was 11 where the class was 117. The first town was settled in 1798 by some ancestors and by the time I was born my grandmother was related to about 85% of those townspeople. 70 years has changed that ratio, but I love going back there as I can pick up a conversation where it had been left off ten years before on my last visit.
    I loved your pictures and text about your roots, it made me feel as though I should make a visit to that little village. As soon as spring has come because eastern MA has more snow and cold than I enjoy any more and that little village is in a snow belt in northern NY state which makes the New Englanders seem as the winter wimps that they are.

  5. Allen you peek my interest as a Sushi lover, wondering what this book could possibly be about – perhaps Japan’s nuclear reactor pouring waste into the sea, or parasites or actually you have me scared now …. Not sure I could ever totally give up Sushi though personally! I may die trying! Otherwise, I often wonder what it would be like to be “from” a place that provided a nurturing good and pure environment for growing up. I seem to have spent a lifetime trying to de-learn what was nurtured into me while living my formative years in rural Texas. Then again, perhaps those harboring the hate and prejudice have formed a more permanent part of my memory than those offering kindness, love and understanding.

  6. LOVE the title! do I sense…….well never mind.
    Not sure I can even say my home town of DAYTON,OHIO was even a nice place to be from. The opposite of double digit graduating class is nearly quqadruple digits where no one knows who you are unless you are a football jock or his cheerleader girlfriend. Where there is nothing but asphalt and you have a Delco Marine paroducts plant at one end of your street and a secret government operation at the other end. Your neighbors work there but won’t talk about it. Then the women in the neighborhood, after living there about 30 years develop MS, MS and ALS in serious numbers. Does anyone look into this epidemiological curiosity? NOPE.
    I left immediately after college and seriously NEVER went back. I couldn’t do a blog with pictures if I wanted to.

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